I have turned down many opportunities with good people in my life. I cry about it more and more. I wish I could do what a good psychiatrist said. “Don’t think about the past and turn off your TV at 10:00.”

Our neighbors when I was a child were black. The only blacks in a white suburban town. Nobody but us would speak to them, but we were the worst for them. My family was Liberal with skeletons in the closet if not blood.